When Did This Happen?

Let’s be honest: at a certain age, many of us start looking at our arms and wondering, what happened? Once trim and toned, now… softer, fuller, less recognizable.

Not long ago, I was in the fitting room at my local outlet mall when I caught sight of my bare arms in the mirror. I didn’t recognize them. When did this happen—and why is it still changing?

I first noticed it about ten years ago. Me—someone who has been active and athletic all my life—suddenly facing arms that didn’t match the picture in my head. I’ve tried weights, different lifting techniques, and endless effort, but the truth is: my arms are no longer what they once were.

Beyond the Mirror

If this sounds like you, too you’re probably wondering what can be done.  Stand there criticizing yourself? Or learn to embrace who you are now?

At some point, acceptance becomes the healthier choice. Your arms, and your whole self, carries far more than muscle tone—they carry your life story. The happy, the sad, the magical, the tragic. Each trial you’ve faced, each victory you’ve earned, has shaped you into the women you are today.

Pause for a moment and reflect: over the past 7, 10, or 15 years, what challenges have you overcome that you never thought you could? That reflection is not only grounding—it’s an act of wisdom, appreciation, and love.

The Power of Kindness

My husband often told me, “Be kind to yourself.” Such simple words, but truly powerful medicine.

Kindness isn’t just about diet, exercise, or sleep. It’s about the inner voice that either lifts us up or tears us down. When we choose kindness within, it radiates outward, touching others. And in a world that sorely needs it, your kindness can be a healing force.

Three Gentle Practices

Here are three simple ways to practice self-kindness this week:

1. Rest & Repeat – Don’t underestimate the power of pauses. Rest during the day and at night. Replenish your body so you can rise strong.

2. Eat to Nourish – Choose foods that bring clarity, lightness, and energy. This isn’t about restriction—it’s about fueling your best self.

3. Move Your Body – Walk, dance, stretch, declutter. Movement doesn’t need to be punishing. It’s about engaging your body, mind, and spirit in life.

 

Arms as a Metaphor

Our arms can be more than a reflection of aging. They can be a metaphor for how we live.

Let your arms remind you not just of what has changed, but of all you’ve carried, endured, and overcome. They can also remind you to open up to what is here now, and to what is still to come.

Standing Arm in Arm

As you move through your week, trust that you can take steps toward loving your whole self—yes, even your arms.

Let’s stand arm in arm together, embracing health, resilience, and joy. Walk each day with dignity, release what no longer serves you, and live well in ways that support a strong, beautiful future.